Tuesday morning Grace and I decided to get one last run in before we left Dakar. Our departure date had been pushed back so that our professor, my uncle, could be in Dakar for the memorial service of his nephew, my host mom’s son, who passed away last year. I knew he was coming over for lunch and that there would be a small service. Because my mama said nothing of it, I assumed it was jut a small family event. That was not the case.
I returned from my run to find a large stack of chairs in the courtyard and a few family members and friends milling about. I hopped in the shower real quick wanting to be out and dressed before more people arrived. In the next half hour or so the whole neighborhood was congregated in our house. The living room was filled with men and the courtyard with women. The men were praying, led by the chants of another uncle, the women simply praying in silence facing Mecca. It went on this way for about an hour, listening to the chants of the men and occasional comforting of my mama when she would break down in tears. I can hear the chanting of prayers from my house each evening but it is usually just background noise to my life. Surrounded by silence and with nothing to distract me I really listened to the chanting and it has an extremely calming effect. Even though I was glad to be able to offer my prayers and condolences, to be there for my maman, I couldn’t help feeling I was intruding on what should have been a very private time. She has told a few stories about her son and shared some photos with me, but that doesn't change the fact that I never knew him and have only been with her for a month.
After the service was finished people slowly began to disperse and only a few family members stayed for lunch. Everyone who attended the service or stopped by at any point during the day was given a small gift bag, me included. It contained an assortment of cookies and chocolates, a bag of water, and carton of milk-they don’t refrigerate those here.
Around 3:30 Grace, Lauren and I hopped in a van with our professor said ‘au revoir’ to our families and to Dakar. We’d only been in Senegal for about a month and all of that time adjusting to the culture of the city and our families. I felt a small sense of sadness to be leaving a city that was just starting to become home, but at the same time anxious to see more of Senegal.



